31. “What are we doing here?”

31. “What are we doing here?”

As mentioned already, it took us two and a half years to get “our day” in court. That’s a lot of time spent preparing, or what I believe, re-living the trauma, for this momentous occasion. Part of this time was spent getting the girls “familiar” with the courthouse and the people that would be involved […]

30. Navigating Triggers

30. Navigating Triggers

Humans are sensory beings and our memories are closely connected to these senses. I know that I love the smell of sunscreen, because it reminds of summers spent at the local pool. The sound of rain on a tin roof is a comfort to me. There is a certain light at night that at the […]

29. “Fake it till you make it”!

29. “Fake it till you make it”!

Being married to Brad is a blessing, but it has also been hard at times. All relationships are like that, and anyone that says anything different is delusional. Parenting young children, though one of the most rewarding times of your life, does add strain to a relationship. This was certainly the case for us. In […]

28. Insensitive…

28. Insensitive…

There are more good people in the world than bad. That is a fact. I don’t have any statistics to back this up…but if it were the other way around, we’d all know about it. Former US President Obama agrees with me. In his final speech at the White House as President he said: “I […]

27. But wait there’s more!

27. But wait there’s more!

‘”He did it to her too!” This is how the conversation began with Lucy about two weeks after I revealed what was happening to our family. As I mentioned in a previous post, Lucy sought advice about how to best approach her conversation with Teigan, her daughter. When she first bought up the subject with […]

26. Perspective…

26. Perspective…

The thing about experiencing a life-altering event like we did, is that life continues to go on. The other thing is that the age old adage that “there’s always someone worse off than you”, becomes very relevant. There are two things that I believe are worse than what our girls have endured. Firstly, having to […]

25. Sleepover…

25. Sleepover…

I am pretty determined to see the best in people. I think that I can get a good gauge of people on first impression and usually have an accurate radar when things don’t feel right. Until After. It’s difficult to rely on your gut instinct when you’ve got it so wrong. As mentioned before, I made […]

24. They are not caterpillars…

24. They are not caterpillars…

I was starting to feel like the walls were closing in on me. We were about six months After and our structured life was becoming less so. Rather than dancing and basketball, we were now attending counselling appointments. I forgot how to sleep. It’s hard to sleep after hearing some of the things that the girls told […]

23. Boom…our private hell just went public!

23. Boom…our private hell just went public!

The relief that accompanied telling Lucy was almost overwhelming. It felt like I could breathe a little easier, knowing that her kids were now safe. But as a result, our private story became very public. Susie, was angry that I had been put in the position that I was. She felt that the body who […]